Psychology of the day.

No matter how nice you think you are, or even are, there are going to be people who won’t like you and would rather not have you around. This is true, whether or not you are talking about a personal face to face relationship, a job, or even participating in a role playing game.
My problem, and it is MY problem and not the problem of the people who dislike me is this. Faced with that, my reaction is to immediately conclude that I am a piece of sh!t. It’s my fault, its my shortcoming, its my failure. My failure at the cave. An psychologically underdeveloped part of me thinks that if I just fix something, those people will like me. I’m not a bad person, I’m a good person. If only they will see.
Its rubbish, of course. People are not guaranteed to like you, no matter how good of a person you are. It’s not because you aren’t a good person, and its not because you are a piece of sh!t. It just is.
I wish I could internalize this. It would save me a lot of internal psychological tsuris.